Talking to My Teenager

Erasmus+ Programme – Strategic Partnership
Project Title: “Talking to my Teenager”
No. project:  2019-1-RO01-KA204-063050

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Communicating with the teenager is sometimes quite difficult. You need to be attentive to the verbal, or non-verbal messages that he conveys. Certain parental statements may cause communication and relationship blockages that may put you as a parent. You ask yourself: Why is my child no longer talking to me? Why does my child turn his back and close in his room?

The relationship between parent and teenager is a definitive and indestructible link, and it should be the closest and strongest possible bond between people. It is very important that the relationship between parents and children, especially those in the teenage age, is a successful one and full of understanding, respect and love. As a teenager, it is very important to keep on a straight line, ie to be careful to keep control of the behavior under so many temptations, or to know NOT to influence the negative influences of the entourage, to make mistakes that go beyond certain limits and who could cause great problems.

Adolescence is, by definition, the period of life in which we learn to become autonomous. The adolescent begins to detach gradually from the family environment to the group of friends, but at the same time, he seeks that family environment, those parts that will allow him to become an adult, modeling his behavior according to parenting patterns; is a child and an adult at the same time … and he lives this contradiction, it’s not easy at all …

Communication is often blocked by the way the adolescent parent addresses it:

• Moralisation – telling him what he should do, preaching him for a quarter of an hour or more about how he should have a certain behavior

• Advices – Give solutions to your child without asking for it

• The orders – the teenager’s orders that you want to do without taking into account his opinion

• Criticism – the negative assessment of the person, his attitudes or actions

• Appraisal praise – evaluate the teenager in general terms

• Excessive use of questions – can lead to an elusive response or the use of one word that does not clarify the problem

• Labeling – Use labels to characterize the child

• Threats – Command the adolescent’s actions through threats, about the negative consequences that will arise

• You should do …

• Deviation – distraction from the interests of the teenager

It is good for each member to make an effort to maintain a certain balance, calmness, and show understanding and respect for other members of his family, especially parents. Parents are the ones who lead the children on the road of life, they always guide them to make the best choices in life for them, they not only figure their way, they are next, for good and hard.

In this context, we come up with the proposal “Talking to my teenager”, which aims to share the experience and practices between partner organizations in Romania, Italy and Cyprus, to create an optimal approach to communication between parents and adolescents, promoting at the same time, better cooperation and communication between partner organizations.

The objectives of our project can be summarized as follows:

– Teach parents to be effective mentors for their teenage children

– Encourage parents to detect, understand and prevent risky behaviors (smoking, drugs, unsafe sex, effects of psychological disorders, etc.)

Our project will include 5 intellectual results: a parent’s educational ability questionnaire, a practical guide, educational materials, a video course, and a platform to prepare parents with adolescent children. All intellectual results will be translated into 4 languages (English, Romanian, Italian, Greek). Experts from partner organizations agreed on topics that will be in the resulting materials, namely: Developmental Psychology, with special emphasis on adolescence, parent-child interaction in adolescence, parent as coach – coaching strategies, Internet safety, education for secure relationships and positive, understanding of behaviors and personality, managing emotions, preventing risky behaviors

Our project will provide free and open tools to help parents with their teenage children, including the use of MOOC (Massive Open Courses Online).

“This project (Project No. 2019-1-RO01-KA204-063050) has been funded with support from the European Commission. This publication reflects the views only of the author, and the Commission cannot be held responsible for any use which may be made of the information contained therein.”


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